Are we too negative?
post # 236 — November 9, 2006 — a General post
Iâ€™m doing something on this blog that I donâ€™t like, and I think many of you are doing it too. Weâ€™re criticizing way too much, pointing out the flaws in other people.
If you look at some of the topics I have initiated here on this blog in recent weeks (or even months,) I have encouraged discussion of the flaws of managers, consultants, marketing people, lawyers, trainers. Iâ€™m getting good at pointing out whatâ€™s wrong with the world (and most of you are too). I think the comments have been largely accurate and fair, but taken together, an unfortunate pattern is emerging — â€˜letâ€™s talk about whatâ€™s wrong with OTHER people.â€™
I donâ€™t think itâ€™s me alone thatâ€™s doing this. When you go visit other blogs, you see lots of criticism, complaints, cynicism and skepticism. You only see a very little praise and celebration of successes, triumphs and things done right. For every blog post or comment illustrating excellence, creativity, trustworthiness or professionalism, there are multiples bemoaning the lack of these things.
Quite honestly, Iâ€™m getting a little depressed by my – our? – negative tone. My message in my writings has always meant to have an optimistic one: true professionalism wins, you can have high standards and still get rich, quality beats volume, trustworthy behavior leads to greater riches as well as personal self-worth, treat people with respect and theyâ€™ll repay you with their trust and loyalty.
But somehow Iâ€™ve drifted here on this blog, and so have many of you. Actually, itâ€™s largely true of the blogosphere in general — more blogs are iconoclastic in the true sense of that word — â€˜tearing downâ€™ the powerful or prominent – and very proportionately fewer are about building up useful knowledge, ideas, tips, insights.
Now, I must rush to point out the paradox of these past few sentences. Iâ€™m complaining about complaining! Being negative about being negative! (Seductive isnâ€™t it?)
Thereâ€™s a lot more to say on this, but the first topic of discussion for you all is:
a) Are we all becoming too negative (cynical, skeptical)?
c) Is it worse on the blogosphere than in real life, or is it a reflection of real life?
d) Is it about like it always was, or is it getting worse?
Lora Adrianse said:
Great minds think alike David! I was just thinking the same thing about my own blogs. In fact, just the other day I posted a request for examples of Random Acts Of Service. (http://yourcustomersmatter.com)
The blogosphere has certainly provided a means for people to be heard, but quite honestly I think we’ve been complaining all along. I know chronic complainers who’ve never heard of blogging.
I believe that we choose to be part of the problem (complaining) or part of the solution (helping to solve). And I’m going to make sure my blogs reflects my beliefs (being part of the solution).
I also believe that we find what we look for. If we look for negative stuff we’ll find plenty. If we look for postive stuff, there is also plenty to be found. Sometimes we forget to clarify what we’re looking for.
It’s really all about awareness! Fabulous isn’t it?
posted on November 9, 2006